Goodbye Grandma

Well, today’s post was going to be filled with a little local adventure, but the world took a little turn for the worse yesterday when my grandma couldn’t keep the Grim Reaper at bay any longer. So this Saturday’s post is a little farewell to her.

Although I only knew her once the grey hairs and wrinkles set in, grandma was quite a looker in her day. You can almost imagine her walking into Sam Spade’s office and being referred to as a “doll.” This is her with my biological grandpa…

And what doll doesn’t love to show off her gams in the garden…

With my parents both working full time, I spent many summer days hanging out at grandma’s house where I’d read and re-read her copy of How to Eat Fried Worms (none of that sappy Judy Blume for me!), she taught me the proper way to blow my nose (if you’re not louder than an elephant trumpeting, you’re not doing it right), and she showed me how to use chopsticks (a talent that still confounds Mr Husband). I’m not quite sure what we’re doing here, but I bet she’s contemplating which home perm to subject me to next…

Grandma didn’t stick with my biological grandpa long, so the man I’d always known as “Grandpa” was Johnny. With a strong woman like my grandma, Johnny could have ended up quite hen-pecked, but he gave as good as he got. Here they are celebrating their 25th wedding anniversary…

Hmm…would you like a side of mischievous grins with that cake?

Grandma was not a woman to mess with, even if you’re just a little kid. One time she was waggling her finger at me and I bit it (playfully). Did she laugh? Did she call me a little rascal and ruffle my home-permed hair? No! She grabbed my hand and bit my finger right back. And she bit HARD! I’ve never bitten a finger since. Don’t mess with Grandma!!

I got dentures and I’m not afraid to use them!

Fond memories of near cannibalism aside, Grandma was there through many of my life’s events. From birthday parties to college graduation to being the witness at my wedding. She wasn’t super mobile but she was damned well determined to get down on that beach and make sure we recited our lines correctly and signed the certificate in just the right spot…

Made it!

Watch your fingers, Judge!!

My grandma wasn’t a home-baked-cookies kind of grandma. She was a tough as nails lady who didn’t take shit from anyone. I think she may have died younger, but I’m convinced that Death was afraid of her. Unfortunately, he managed to sneak in when she wasn’t looking and took her away from us. Good luck to you Death!! Take good care of her…and watch your fingers!!

Martha Burnett 1928-2018

 

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36 thoughts on “Goodbye Grandma

  1. Embeecee says:

    What lovely memories and what a wonderful grandma you had! I lost yesterday too, and another person I heard about also had a loss. Friday, February 16th 2018 was apparently a busy day for that ol’ guy in the black cape with the scythe. Today is the anniversary of my husband’s passing. *sigh*. Know my thoughts and prayers are with you sincerely and my deepest condolences.

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    • TammieLP says:

      Man, that is a bad day….like the Grim Reaper was trying to meet his quota or something. Sorry to hear about your own losses, both recent and not-so recent. Thanks for sharing. πŸ™‚

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  2. The Snail of Happiness says:

    It’s lovely to have memories like that… real ones, silly ones, ones that make you laugh whilst you are crying for your loss. Keep remembering her as that wonderful, feisty person and then a part of her will live on in you… oh and maybe write her into one of your stories!

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    • TammieLP says:

      Thanks Jan! Yes, despite my normal cynicism, I’m pretty good at remembering the fun and silly times…like grandma wondering why she felt silly after my uncle kept spiking her egg nog with whisky one Christmas.

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  3. Jackie says:

    So sorry to hear of your loss and you have my condolences. Your Grandma sounds like quite a character and I’m glad you have so many good memories of her. I think you’ve inherited some of her sassiness and spunk, which is great.

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  4. Jui says:

    I am so sad to hear about this. I know her beautiful memories will be with you all forever. I lost my grandma exactly a month ago so I can understand what you all must be feeling.

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  5. Karen says:

    What wonderful memories of your grandmother, Tammie! I’m so glad I got to meet her! Most of the time I saw her was when she would come out and wave when Teresa and I would leave the house. I’m glad I didn’t know about the biting! 😊 So sorry for your loss.

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    • TammieLP says:

      Ooh, yes, good you kept your distance! My mom got mad at her for that and asked why she’d bite a little girl. My grandma replied, “Well, she’ll never bite me again, will she?” She was right, I learned my lesson and never did πŸ˜‰ Thanks for your thoughts, Karen.

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  6. spiritualdragonfly says:

    very sorry for your loss Tammie…my grandparents have been gone for some time…with the death of my husband 492 days ago…I talk to them all the time and envision them as always having my back…your grandma sounds like she was pretty awesome lady!!! πŸ™‚

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  7. crawcraftsbeasties says:

    Oh Tammie, I’m so sorry! Your Grandma sounds like an awesome lady, and I so enjoyed “meeting” her though the stories and photos in this post… The one of you, her and Mr Husband on your wedding day is lovely! I’m sure she’d be gratified that I have also taken away a valuable lesson about the dangers of finger-biting… Hope you’re all holding up OK, look after yourselves πŸ’š

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    • TammieLP says:

      Thanks Helen, I’m doing fine. Yes, she was pretty stoked about being the witness to the wedding since we were tempted to just ask some random strangers once we got to the beach to be our witnesses. But Grandma won the honor of being only one of three people at our wedding (besides us of course). And I’m sure she’d be thrilled to know her finger bite lesson still lives on! πŸ˜‹πŸ˜œπŸ˜‹

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  8. weekesgaehl says:

    I’m so so sorry to hear about your grandma, but she sounds like she had quite the life. I love this beautiful tribute to her. I especially love your wedding pics–you look so lovely and I know she was so proud to be there. I think that knowing when to ‘bite back’ is a good lesson for us all (well, especially us women). Though physically gone, I know she will continue to inspire you. So sorry, again, for your loss, and I hope you’re doing okay, Tammie xxxx

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    • TammieLP says:

      I’m doing well. She was going downhill for a very long time so it wasn’t a shock or anything. Plenty of time to accept that Old Grim would sneak his way in…and I do have to note her dentures were out when he stopped by. Smart fellow! 😜 thanks for your comments!

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      • weekesgaehl says:

        Yeah, I know how hard it still can be even if expected and weighed up with a long, fulfilling life. I’m glad you’re okay though and employing your usual wit. And it would be really bad for business if Old Grim lost his pointer finger and could no longer menacingly gesture to his victims! He’s no fool!

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      • TammieLP says:

        Damn you! Now you’ve given me an idea for yet another story…especially since I’ve already been contemplating a Death/Devil-themed series. Maybe I can work Grandma in to the tale :))

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  9. D. Wallace Peach says:

    I’m sorry for your loss, Tammie. She sounds like she was a wonderful woman and a source of love in your life. I love the last photo of her. There’s kindness in those eyes. ❀

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